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Sensitive, caring and selfish

Published 19-Jun-1991 in the Denver Post
Copyright ©1991 by Ed Quillen. All rights reserved.

Martha laughed hilariously Sunday morning as she read Contemporary. For once, it wasn't Dave Barry; it was the cover story.

Can you believe this? In our decadent cities, men have apparently forgotten how to be men. So they go to the woods, strip naked, and get inside these steam-bath lodges where they sit close to each other. That's not exactly my idea of a stud.

I cautioned her not to say anything politically incorrect that could be interpreted as homophobic, lest the Virtue Squad raid us again. Last week they found undecaffeinated coffee in our pantry, but let us off with a warning.

You're right, I continued. If men have forgotten the traditional ways, we could open an academy in Salida and make some money. Most of what we need is here.

There's the 'Men's Resource Center,' a/k/a the Victoria Tavern, she agreed. That's where you guys hang out, swill beer and swap lies.

There's a problem with that, I said. Our potential students wouldn't approve of hanging out and griping. They want to be caring, sensitive and nurturing.

But that's crazy, Martha said. Do women want to be caring, sensitive and nurturing any more? Or do they want power, fame, fortune and glory?

Nobody wants caring, sensitive and nurturing any more, I concurred. Except for these sweat-lodge wannabes who think they can be GI Joe and Barbie at the same time.

Right, Martha agreed. Everybody knows a real man can hammer his thumb, engage in combat, fall off a scaffold, dig ditches till he drops, chug a pitcher, chain-smoke Camel straights, work under a bumper jack, eat a year's worth of cholesterol at one picnic, and clean a bathroom without touching the toilet, the sink or the floor.

Those guys are idiots, I said, if they think they can express their masculinity by sitting in a sauna.

No, you've got that wrong, Martha said. Isn't it just like a man to spend a lot of money to go off for a weekend with the boys and claim it will make him a better husband and father? Instead of taking his wife somewhere? Or doing something with his kids?

You probably think a man should waste his weekend by taking his kids and their friends to Chuckee Cheeze.

At least that would show he has stamina and courage.

I'd rather paint myself blue and howl at the moon.

So would they. This is a great scam. When old-fashioned insensitive men go off deer hunting with their friends, they don't dare claim that it will make them better fathers or more attentive husbands. If you ask me, these New Age males have the essence of masculinity all figured out, no matter what they do or don't do in their sweat-lodge rituals.


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